"Suppose you are a parent who accepts the idea that children need freedom in order to be happy and to grow in healthy ways. How can you, despite all of the social forces working against you, become a more trusting parent and allow your children more freedom? Here are six suggestions. The first three have to do with restructuring your own thoughts and habits, and the rest have to do with providing a healthy environment for your children."
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/freedom-learn/200908/routes-toward-trustful-parenting-in-our-time
The "problem child" is a child, not a problem
"Deciding to share power rather than impose it requires a mind-set shift. One might see that as “giving in to the child.” But what would be the point of punishing a child who literally could not sit still?"
25 self-care ideas for exhausted parents
It's essential that parents care for themselves—for their own well-being—but also because any effort they put into self-care has huge payoffs for their children. When parents "fill their own cups," they have more patience, energy, and passion to spread to their families.