Play Myth # 1: Babies can’t do it.Play Myth #2: If a baby cries when she’s placed down, she must not like playing.
Play Myth #3: Play means “doing” something.
Play Myth #4: Gated play areas are restrictive “jails”.Play Myth #5: Independent play means leaving children alone.
Play Myth #6: When children get frustrated or ask for help, we should solve the problem for them.Play Myth #7: It’s our job to entertain and play with our children
This brings me to my next point. Janet wrote
"Often the richest, most productive play doesn’t look like much because it’s dawdling, imagining, daydreaming, big picture thinking. To encourage this kind of play we must: first, value it; second, observe it; and lastly, not interrupt..."
My aim here at Preschool Engineering is to help you see the value of your child's play. Nevermind that independent child's play means you get freed up to do work, chores, enjoy a beverage in peace. That could be considered valuable enough. But there is more value in your child's play. They are building a foundation for science, technology, engineering and mathematics learning. Putting blocks together they are experiencing shapes, colors, and quantity. Identifying, sorting, and classifying toys and other household items is pre-Science learning. Nesting pots and pans on the kitchen floor is pre-Math when your child is comparing size and shape. Banging a hammer onto pretend nails is pre-Technology and pre-Engineering learning because he or she located a tool to use to accomplish something that needed to be done. Pre-STEM can be seen everywhere...and having had oodles of formal engineering training I'm here to help you see it.
I find the approach quite confusing to put into practice, though it seems very compelling. On the one hand, there is an emphasis on independent play that gives you time to do something else (e.g. "have a beverage in peace"). On the other hand, there is a similar emphasis on being present, acting as an observer and sportscasting the play in order to show that it is valued. But obviously, it can't be both. So which is it? Or is the former an evolution of the latter? Totally unclear to me how this is supposed to work.
ReplyDeleteYou are getting at two things, I think.
DeleteHaving a beverage in peace, to me, means that my child is not depending on me to make the dolls talk to them, building a castle out of blocks for them, or otherwise requiring me to entertain them. They are happy to be by themselves. I went through some growing pains with my first child when I tried to step away. He was accustomed to how I directed things.
The second thing is regarding Myth #5. Independent play does not mean that you don't get to be with the child. It means that your role is that of observer and responder, not directing things. Does that make sense?